Wired to connect. Wired to grow.
Are relationships feeling complicated?
As much as connecting is important and valuable, it can be a great source of conflict. Sometimes, it’s assumed that being in a relationship should be natural, effortless or easy. However, relationships require attention, effort, and development. There are essentials ingredients to helping them work.
What research has shown is that we are wired to connect, both at a biological and intuitive level. We need connection to survive and thrive. But, what do we do when it’s just too complicated to get along?
There are ways to improve the quality of relationships. The first step is to reflect on the quality of our current relationships. Dr. Amy Banks, explains that a way to assess relationships is to rate and reflect on 4 ingredients such as: safety, acceptance, mirroring, and energy.
We are capable of improving the quality of relationships within what’s under our control. There are variables that are simply not a reflection of us, but the other individual’s past and present circumstances. With that said, that helps us know our own boundaries and how far we can develop a relationship without sacrificing our needs and dignity.